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“Life isn’t about having, it’s about being. When you look for happiness in mere objects, they are never enough. Look around, look within”. Nick Vujicic.

I read an article recently that hit differently. It’s a story of a village far away that was called 1000 mirrors. A small happy little dog decided to take a trip to this village. When he arrived at the place, he bounced happily to the doorway of the house. He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted and his tail wagging. To his great surprise, there were 1000 other dogs wagging their tails happily, he smiled, and 1000 other dogs smiled. He left with gratitude, believing this must be the most wonderful place ever.

Another unhappy dog visited the same place, when he looked through the door, he saw 1000 other dogs staring with a frown, a very unhappy lot. He started growling, and 1000 other dogs growled. He left the place with utter disappointment.

Life gives us a version of what we give it. Energy in, energy out, and vice versa. The difference between the two dogs is that one knew how to turn its situation around. We get what we attract. We are like human transmission towers; we transmit feelings through our thoughts. The first dog knew too well that gratitude turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, and confusion into clarity. Gratitude is the healthiest of all human emotions. We must change how we feel and think about things because our thoughts become things. Energy flows where attention goes.

The other day I bumped into a long-time friend in the supermarket, and she bought me something that one could consider petty- a pen, and my heart was full. Friends are like charming gardeners who make our souls blossom. I expressed my appreciation in words, which was kind enough but as we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest form of appreciation is not utter words, but to live by them. Gratitude goes far beyond saying ‘thank you. When we are grateful, we affirm that a source of goodness exists in our lives. It should not only be a reaction to what we want but rather an appreciation of the little things. We should constantly look for good even in unpleasant situations. When was the last time you appreciated a friend who went out of their way to check on you or even save you out of a situation or even the mere fact they are your friends?

Often, we are overcrowded by feelings of hopelessness. Our emotions stall and we are tempted to frown. When we encourage this kind of feeling to persist, we are bound to get utter disappointment like our second dog. Be thankful for difficult times, they make you grow. When we feel this kind of negative energy, we ought to emit a new signal of hopefulness. Gratitude is an antidote to negative emotions, it’s a neutralizer of envy, hostility worry, and irritation. We must learn to listen to the voice within, when it’s more profound than the outer voice, then we’ve mastered our life. Practicing gratitude even in the such situation increases self-awareness. It’s a game changer. If we approach a situation with appreciation, the universe extends the arms of abundance to us. You don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness- it’s right in Infront of you. Pay attention to how you’ve been practicing gratitude.

Let us all get lost in the forest of gratitude, leaving behind, and never return to the barren cities of greed. Be thankful that you do not have enough of everything you desire, if you did, what would you be looking forward to? If your job gave you all the money you needed, would you still have the desire to work? Life unfolds its goodness in layers. Savor the moments you got like a royal platter. Life has given us spectacular skies and meadows that teach us appreciation. Gratitude, like faith, is a muscle. The more we use it, the more power we have.

#haveagratitudefilledweek#

“Regardless of what comes before or what has yet to come, what matters right now is how I choose to respond to the challenge before me. Will I lie down, or will I fight? The choice is mine and I choose to finish strong”.

I once read a story about a group of frogs who were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit. When the other frogs saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead.

Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell and died.

The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out. When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?" The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time. Interesting huh!

This reminded me of a phrase I read about being strong, “you never know how strong you are until being strong is the only option you got. I mean, the two frogs were both in a quagmire, and at some point, they didn’t know what they really wanted but one of them knew that finishing strong was the only option he got. He could have decided like the other one that enough is enough, there was no need to attempt further and choose to die too. Sometimes, life goes wrong as it changes with the seasons but giving up is not an option. Some situations in our lives get murky and slippery rendering us utter confusion. Every day you face hurdles, small, big, few, or many but life is about overcoming them all.

Therefore, as you journey on towards the finish line, keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions, small people always do that, and supportive people call you to the task. Life is a journey, and you need a battalion of friends who psyche you up. Finishing strong requires a clear mind, ferocious concentration, and fanatical execution. The exact mentality of a runner who sprints forth to the finish line or a boxer looking for a knockout.

We do not win at life because we are well experienced, but because, what we need to do is what we have been doing all year long. We’ve cultivated a strong habit of small wins repeatedly. Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of that event. Furthermore, finishing strong is a high-performance achievement across all aspects of life.

Be the second frog in your race. You are the hero and your own content creator. Show the world the quality of your character by letting go of the small annoyances. Those little things that defocus you from your goals end up sucking your mental bandwidth and leave you feeling incomplete. Get rid of all the physical and emotional clutter therein. Some of us have carried burdens that do not even concern us. When will you ever get time to reconnect with yourself when you have baggage right, left, and center? Do not sweat the small stuff. Show the world the strength of your resolve and the size of your heart by tackling issues end to end. Pending issues and procrastination sucks. Hold the bull by its horns and have meaningful conversations with people who matter. Bring out tough topics and solve the puzzle. Every day there are 1440 minutes and those are opportunities to create a new impact.

Remember, the end justifies the means. How you rock your world is shown by the results you deliver. Keep moving and keep rowing that boat in the right direction. The journey will be stormy, and no one ever promised a smooth ride. What matters is how you maneuver through the storm. To the cheerleaders in life, be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of words... it is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Do not rob people's appetite to live through your insensitive words!

The rain was pounding hard on the ground, and I could see the rocks and pebbles illuminating with hues as a reflection from a light so far away. The speckle sandy ripples glittered with beauty. I stared at the clouds; they were so pregnant as though they were preparing for prolonged labor. Talk of this kind of labor where a woman cries, turns, curses, and then, in the end, they are wheeled to a theatre room for a caesarian delivery. Oh, I’m sure every person who has gone through this has sworn with their great grandfather’s name that they need no more children, only to forget after 2 years and they are back at it again. That’s life, healing is a process.

Sometimes, we think we have leverage, only to get a trigger, and all of a sudden, we feel like a broken vase. There’s a void in our souls, and nothing can replace the brokenness. Nothing seems to ease pain so deep; it never ventures near the skin but rather gets embroidered in the heart. You become a wounded soul that does not need any tangible repair but rather soak yourself in a gleam of solitude. You try to find solace in friends who laughed with you when all was smooth and glowing, and all you do is chase after smoke. Some people are an elixir, others are venom. You should learn to distinguish the two. Some people will find you crushed and empty your existence staining you with crude poison. They will not help you to recover but sink you in. Run away from such kind of people that come in the name of friends, but they will never help you when in trouble. Aspire to be with people who hold your hand when in trouble and walk the journey with you to fruition. They are the aura your spirit needs.

Attitude is everything on your pathway to healing. When things become vague and it’s all confusion. Try to go back to the place where you had the hopes of a little child, and everything was possible. Of course, time heals all wounds. Please stop overthinking life like you must have answers to every feeling or situation. Life is a roller coaster you know, and there are going to be very painful moments that will change your life and your entire world. How you navigate past the storm is all that counts. No one is perfect, learn, elevate past the hurt, transcend beyond what happened, let go of what no longer serves you and protect your energy daily. More so, forgive yourself and love yourself unconditionally. Some things will just fall into place, and you’ll not even know how you pulled through.

Train your mind to be positive no matter what. Life is rarely ever predictable. Therefore, just trust, hope, and believe. Dare to blaze the trail even when the path in Infront of you looks impossible. The secret of life is not about knowing the future or having a perfect roadmap but rather having faith in the future and getting the spirit of a pioneer. Think positive always. The most exhilarating experiences are generated in the mind. Learn to take control of your thoughts. Becoming mentally strong requires effort and practice. We can choose to fix our thoughts on goodness, abundance, and hope. Hope that there’s a way out and have faith that you’re strong enough to conquer the problems that you face.

Heal my friend, from hurt, guilt, and feelings of persecution. I hope you are like the sun, no matter how dark it is, no one should take your glory. Do not take your warmth away and your precious innocence. Day by day, just when you thought the pain will never go, your heart will feel lighter and your soul happier. You know you have mastered the soul lesson when the circumstance has not changed but the way you respond has. That’s the true energy of self-mastery.

Many moons back when we were growing up, our mums would use rhetorical statements to suggest one thing when they literally meant a different thing. I remember one time I was sent to our local shop to buy sugar and mum was quite clear on the statement she made," Kuja nayo ukizungusha imwagike tukukunywe". In reality, that was a daring statement. True to her words, play got into my head, and I came rocking the carrier bag up and down, the next thing I saw was flying sugar particles. You and I know what followed - premium tears. Those were the days when you could receive whipping for crying after being beaten and for not crying after the beating. I'm not sure if this was discipline instilled but one thing I know is our parents were going through tough times and some of these beatings were either a display of their frustrations and turmoil of the past or the present.

In a fast-paced world full of hardships, tough economic times, unemployment, and the most recent pandemics, it's easy to lose self and get engulfed in the mystery of frustrations. In recent times, we have experienced insane highs and rock bottom lows. We are so busy trying to figure things out and our bodies feel numb already. It indeed feels like we are in a donkey carriage heading to neverland. What if we gave ourselves permission to do one thing that lights up our soul, just for the sake of our well-being as part of our self-care routine? When was the last time you thought about your mental well-being and chose yourself?

Choosing ourselves is not selfish, Nah. It is drawing finer lines that depict our boundaries and sticking to what we believe in. It's replacing doubt with faith and holding a belief that we shall rise despite the current situation. It lifts the banner of positivity higher than our worries. It's marrying our goals and remaining committed to our well-being. Take one conscious thought out of the frustrations of life and decide to choose you. Approve yourself with passion and feel the power that comes from focussing on what ignites your spirit.

Don't put your happiness in other people's hands, they'll drop it at any available chance. Fill your cup first with self-acceptance, then fall in love with yourself over and over again because you are the only person you'll spend the rest of your life with. Follow your star and let it shine to the deepest part of your soul. Believe in the power of love but never beg for it. Never beg someone to be with you, or beg for attention, time, or even space. Those who want you will fight for you. Meanwhile, choose people who lift you even when you have self-doubt. Believe in the kind of love that doesn't demand you to prove your worth, the free-flowing and simple.

Lastly, this is for you who have had a rough week and nothing seems to fall in place. You seem to be under constant stormy clouds and all around seem invisible. Your heart skips at the sound of glasses tinkling and horns hooting. I wish you nothing but peace. Try to choose yourself, by first forgiving your past failures, embracing the process and learning, then rise, dust off and keep moving. Move past your fears and worries and choose inner peace. There's glory in loving yourself, just the way you are. With all the flaws and the scars. You are your own true hero. You are the only one who knows the battles you've fought and how you've conquered them. Even this time, you will win! If you are given a chance to choose again - choose you!

I’m seated at one of my favorite coffee places in town sipping some hot lemon tea taking a breather from a long day and of course minding my own beeswax. I love sitting by the window for fresh air and a clear view of the surrounding. Evenings are good for chit-chats and breathers. People come and go. A couple in one corner is busy mending their issues in private lest they expose their dirty linen in public, some girls near me are merry for some reason, you know girls will always be girls, Chama ladies by the other side trying to strategize how to be the next millionaires in town – it’s alright. Life is that interesting, many things happening at the same time- some people being born others dying, and so is life.

Well, I love solitude. It’s in these moments that I organize and disorganize my life in one sitting. I row my boat to the east and go back to the west in my own small ocean. I like to echo the words of Epictetus, “Keep your attention focused entirely on what is truly your own concern and be clear that, what belongs to others is their business and none of yours”. I have also learned that for you to thrive in life, you must endeavor to keep your dinner table small, your private space should not be occupied by everyone. The world is full of people who are committed to frustrating your efforts at the slightest chance on offer. Some hate you for no reason. No matter what you do or sell or even give …they are silent enemies. When people are clapping for you, they are clapping trying to warm up for a slap or a stab on your back. Do not waste your finite time trying to please such kinds of losers. Remember, you are not everyone’s cup of tea.No matter how hard you try, you cannot be liked by everybody. Let go of your approval-seeking behavior.

Why do people poke their noses where they do not belong in the first place? I just don’t understand how some people get so involved in other people's affairs. I thought it’s more mature to get your priorities right and run after that which builds your life. How do you even carry other people's baggage when you already have your own? Must be tiring right? They say, 90% of all human wisdom is to mind your own business because the only authority you possess is over your mind. It is to accept the fact that you can’t save everybody, that you can’t solve everyone’s problems. You must understand that sometimes, not getting involved is the best thing you can do. Let people do what they need to do to make them happy, do that which makes you happy too. Stay positive, stay focused, and you are in control of your own actions.

We are living in a comical world where a bystander can read your problems just by staring at you. All classes of people in our daily lives can easily find fault in another person. From one end to the other, they find stories to fill their day. Oh did you see how she was dressed today? Have you seen how she walks with wobbly legs oh and I hear she drinks gin like a fish, Have you seen how Mr. X looks like he’s not well fed, I hear the wife beats him every night, Walimwengu, when will you ever rest? We should all find enough to do. If we could only look deep within ourselves and remove the specks in our own eyes before we try to see our neighbors, This world could be a peaceful place. We could not hear of the wrestling that goes on on the streets because so and so said this and that. We need to get rid of a life where we are the pot, laughing at the kettle, whereas our own bottoms are as black as hell.

Get into thoughts that will give you returns. Strategize on how to make money and other Important things. Other people's lives will never feed you or propel you to where you want to be.

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