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It's 5am in the morning and darkness lingers like a forbidden treasure. The weather outside is snowy and it has no signs of thawing , not even a little. People are walking briskly on footpaths and pavements hither and thither. Some know where they are going, others don't. Some shake their heads for no apparent reason and others are having soliloquy. Most of them don't even understand where they are going. Bills are increasing by the day and the more they try to sort, everything goes haywire. Indeed life feels like a speeding motor boat.

To most of us, life feels like a chasm. Day by day , we feel like we are getting into a pit of no return. Why does everythg seem so complex and why do our hearts feel so disgruntled? Why are our hearts filled with ingratitude and discontent? Often, we are dealing with issues beyond what we can sustain. We've dug pits ourselves and now we can hardly find our way out. We've become people-pleasers so we have to keep updating our lifestyles because we want to compete. We sleep and wake up ungrateful like we owe the great health and fresh air we breath to ourselves. In the end, we bleed, our bones break as we try to run after wind. We forget the small things we've achieved as we chase the fleeting folly of invicibility.

When we are busy complaining our shoes are tight, others wish they had legs leave alone the shoe. Contentment is a state of mind, it's a choice and it comes with a combination of intentional mindset, shifts, positive habits and being aware of our thoughts. It is finding joy in what we already have and flowing simplicity of knowing you are exactly where you belong. Remember, fulfillment is never found where you expect it to be ,neither is it in your physical desire to be perfect.

Practice gratitude, it is the fairest blossom that springs from the soul. Celebrate what you have with gratitude and just float in the knowledge that you are healthy, your basic needs are met and thats it.Acknowledging what you have is the foundation of all abundance. Every morning you need to wake with devout thanksgiving. It unlocks the fulness of life and unlocks what we have into enough.

I have watched the butchermen and shopkeepers try to balance items on scale for the purpose of getting the right proportion, and on all occasions, the equilibrium must balance, and so is life. It is like cycling on a two-wheeler and for you to maintain balance you must keep moving.

Balance is key to everything, the balance of power is the scale of peace, we balance for survival. We love we hate and with all the madness neither of the sides must descend.

A good life consists of more than simply the totality of enjoyable experiences. It's a mixture of intertwined emotions and experiences. Like an intricate web, there's no definite direction on making it in life. Some call it fate, others call it luck but whatever the case, it leads us to a certain destiny.

So live your life in your own design, be your own architecture. Take control of everything that entails your life and live a content one. Won't you?

“You are not the victim of the world, but rather the master of your own destiny. It is your choices and decisions that determine your Destiny”. Roy T Bennet.

It’s 5am in the morning and there are few people walking on the pavements. It’s still dark and chilly. Flashy cars are on a rush heading towards one direction. Another group of people are taking their morning run seriously before the day breaks forth. Some are in churches and mosques. In my head, a myriad of questions and answers are taking the center play. There’s something unique about the early risers that the rest of the people don’t have. They are the witnessers of the beauty that comes with daybreak. Through the rosy-fingered dawn they rise when the winds are young and the breeze soothing. The stimulus that pushes them out of bed to go gather more into their baskets which is overflowing or near full remains a myth. It’s a choice they have made, to gather the freshest of the land when the biggest number is still folding their arms to rest.

Every day we are faced with multiple choices. The moment we set our feet off the bed in the morning, the operations we hold during the day, and the moment we go back to bed is summarized by the meaning we give to things. If you want a new life, you make new choices. If you don’t like the way your body looks like, you change it by choosing healthier foods and exercises. If you don’t like the way you’ve been handling your finances, you can change that too.

Life is a physical manifestation of the conversation going in your head. It all begins and ends in your head, what you give power to has power over you. In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. We are faced with numerous opportunities. Life is an adventure of choices; the choices are all yours- choose what makes you.

We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power within ourselves, for a man is made and unmade by themselves. We are beings of power, intelligence, and lords of Love. The choices we make show that we are far more than our abilities. We limit ourselves because we allow people to control our decisions. The attitude we carry around things is everything. It is the only one way and the last to human freedom.

Just remember that, between stimulus and response there’s a space. In that space, there’s power to choose our response. How you choose to respond to different circumstances in your life, lies growth and freedom. How we choose to respond to circumstances and conditions set before us gives us the power to change everything. Once faced with a situation, you can decide to get bitter or better. It’s that simple. You can learn and develop from your bitter experiences but again, you can allow them to tear you down.

Choices have consequences. Once you make a choice, you must accept the responsibility. You cannot escape from your choices. I read as tory of two siblings who came from an abusive family, the father was a deadbeat alcoholic, and whenever he got home, they all spent outside in the cold. Their mother would do meagre jobs during the day to make sure they never slept hungry, which they sometimes did. Even with such kind of sacrifice, the dad would always cause trouble. When they grew up, they both took different paths. One of the sons emulated the dad and became a drunkard, the other one chose soberness. When they were asked about their inspiration in life, their answers were similar- the dad.Life is a story line, the lessons you pick along the way are entirely your choices.

You can choose to drain yourself in despair because a certain event overtook your will power or rise and change the narrative. You can change your inner dialogue, and the perspective you give to different things. Switch your mentality from “I can’t do, to, I can”, from, “I’m broken to, I’m healed”, and observe how your world transforms. You are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. When they tell you, it runs in the family, unless it’s a positive, run out of that mentality as fast as your soul can withstand. Deny your soul to withstand pathetic generational ties that hinders your growth. We must unpack the truth in what resonates with our chosen values.

“I always feel happy. You know why? Because I do not expect anything from anyone. Expectations always hurt. Life is short, so love your life. Be happy. Keep smiling’- William Shakespeare.

Most of us have heard of this song, sang by Freshly Mwamburi- Stella Wangu. As I listen to this song, I’m amused at how the character in mention went out of his way to sell all he had to sponsor a girl he loved with all his heart to further education overseas. His intentions in this scenario were pure but his expectations went beyond what his brain could fathom. After years of waiting, what followed was sheer disappointment. We expect many times, but we fail. We expect that people will take care of us as we take care of them, but they don’t care at all. We also expect that they will encourage us when we are on our down low as we do to them, but they discourage us instead. That’s why the swahili’s say-“Tenda wema nenda zako, usingoje shukurani”. Do good and do not expect anything in return. Expectations is the fastest way to single handedly break your own heart- Sarah Jean Bowers.

Recently, there’s a word going around, and it’s commonly used in the streets, especially at a time as this when everything is clearly bottom-up (literally). That “vitu kwa ground ni different”. Our perceptions and expectations are like walking a tight rope. We load our expectations from life on one end of the bar and our perceptions about life on the other and we move on the rope relying on the balance of the stick. Overloading in any direction can fling us down, ruining the remaining journey. I once started a salon business with very high expectations of how I would change the world with beauty tips and magnificent hairstyles, little did I know that there’s more to this business than meets the eye. I had to sell that business after some few years of trying. I still have a passion in this area, and I believe someday I’ll start afresh but from a different perspective.

Expectations are pre-conceived notions on how events should play. It’s like watching a silent overcast of nimbus cloud and filling your heart with hopes of rain- only for it to be scattered and all you can see is clear blue sky with no hopes of ever-darkening again. In life, we have enlisted things that we need to achieve over a set period, and if this is not met, we feel disappointed. Sometimes, we take up representations of how others want us to be. The parental expectations over our lives, the social norms, that make us suture ourselves in pain trying to impress and meet their expectations. In the end, we keep our own pleasure out and hem ourselves in invisible walls of misery, padlocking our own thoughts and desires. So, are you living your life for others, or you are living your own life to the best of your ability?

Those imaginary expectations will haunt you for years and strike you to the weakest and you’ll gasp to the immense Pain. Our expectations have immense power over our feelings, that’s why we end up feeling really disappointed if things don’t turn our way. You need to align your expectations with the reality. You cannot expect someone to act in a certain way if you also struggle keeping up to those standards. Furthermore, we were brought up differently from diverse cultures, with vast norms and values. Therefore, changing another person’s perspective about how they view different things is troublesome. Love yourself enough to minimize expectations from people, because the higher you rank them, the more disappointed you’ll become. Social media has really altered the way people live. Just because you saw all socialites on social media with well-sculpted bodies, you fill your mind with ideations hence you end up wasting a lot of time and money trying to keep up, to match up to the societal expectations of a beautiful figure. Disappointment crops in when you discover that, the photos posted in the social media platforms are photoshopped and nothing like that ever exists.

Separate your self-worth from your outcomes. Be happy with yourself and with the achievements you’ve made so far. Hope to become better and do not kill yourself for the fact that things aren’t going as you thought they would go. Keep trying though, modify your mindset to behaviors that can create expectations which push and inspire you to be a better person. Remember” expectations are the root of all heartaches”. Do you, and let others be.

It's 5 am in the morning and darkness lingers like a forbidden treasure. The weather outside is snowy and it has no signs of thawing, not even a little. People are walking briskly on footpaths and pavements hither and thither. Some know where they are going, others don't. Some shake their heads for no apparent reason and others are having soliloquy. Most of them don't even understand where they are going. Bills are increasing by the day and the more they try to sort, everything goes haywire. Indeed life feels like a speeding motorboat.

To most of us, life feels like a chasm. Day by day, we feel like we are getting into a pit of no return. Why does everything seem so complex and why do our hearts feel so disgruntled? Why are our hearts filled with ingratitude and discontent? Often, we are dealing with issues beyond what we can sustain. We've dug pits ourselves and now we can hardly find our way out. We've become people-pleasers so we have to keep updating our lifestyles because we want to compete. We sleep and wake up ungrateful like we owe the great health and fresh air we breathe to ourselves. In the end, we bleed, our bones break as we try to run after the wind. We forget the small things we've achieved as we chase the fleeting folly of invincibility.

When we are busy complaining our shoes are tight, others wish they had legs leave alone the shoe. Contentment is a state of mind, it's a choice and it comes with a combination of intentional mindset, shifts, positive habits, and being aware of our thoughts. It is finding joy in what we already have and the flowing simplicity of knowing you are exactly where you belong. Remember, fulfillment is never found where you expect it to be, neither is it in your physical desire to be perfect.

Practice gratitude, it is the fairest blossom that springs from the soul. Celebrate what you have with gratitude and just float in the knowledge that you are healthy, your basic needs are met and that's it. Acknowledging what you have is the foundation of all abundance. Every morning you need to wake with devout thanksgiving. It unlocks the fulness of life and unlocks what we have into enough.

Balance is key to everything, the balance of power is the scale of peace, we balance for survival. We love we hate and with all the madness neither of the sides must descend.

So live your life in your own design, be your own architecture. Take control of everything that entails your life and live a content one. Won't you?

“The longer you resist the calling of your soul, the harder it is to find your way back. Intuition isn’t instilled in us for nothing, It’s the movement inside us that we must listen to if we want the void to varnish”.

Recently, I read about research that was done by Curt Ritcher on the ability of rats to stay in bucket full of water. He did the research on both domesticated and wild rats hoping the results would be different since wild rats are assumed to be great swimmers than the latter, but the results turned out the same. He drowned several rats in a bucket of water to see how long it took them to drown. Amazingly, the first trial took two minutes then they started drowning. He saved them in time, dried them and gave them time to rest before proceeding with the next part of the experiment. Once they regained their strength, he repeated the same procedure, but this time round, the rats fought through for many hours hoping they would be rescued like the first time. The research demonstrated the power of hope and resilience through perseverance.

What if you lived your whole life, then in the end, you realized you chose the wrong path? Life is a journey in the jungle, often, we take paths in life that lead us to the wrong direction. It’s like stepping into an intricate web that does not have a definitive direction or stepping into netherworld where ups and downs are the order of the day. This is a harsh world, and the journey will weigh you down sometime. It reaches a point where you are sick and tired of the present and you can’t take it in anymore. It’s at this point where you have to find your own light. At this point, giving up is not an option. You must remember all the times you have pushed on even when your feet couldn’t stand. All the mornings you got out of bed even with all the haziness in your eyes. You wanted to give up, but you got through another day.

Through my own experience, I would say, getting lost is not the problem, remaining in the jungle is. Learn to welcome the return of life’s most important lessons as you return to self. You gotta fall, but learn to rise, dust off and retrieve your steps back to where you belong. Some of us are crashed by the mean sentences that were strewn at us and dug such a deep hole into our hearts. Break those letters apart and rearrange them into something beautiful. Get out of your head and step into your destiny. Someone’s opinion of you doesn’t have to become your reality. You need a liberation from your negative thoughts. Do not continue to question your worth and purpose in this world. Heal.

Healing comes more in spirals than in straight lines. It takes courage and we all have courage. It’s not what happens that changes the situation but what you do to change the situation. You are in new space now; old baggage must go no matter how hard it is. It’s also sad that in life you must go that extreme bottom to find your way back up. Like the drowning rats, resilience is brought about by the lessons you get in life. The harder you fall, the better you withstand difficult times. You need to be buried deep in the dirt before you can find your bloom. I learned in life that you cannot wait for the feel-good moment, go for the moment then feel the effect. Our wounds re-invent us to the best version of ourselves. When we look at the scars, we remember the journey. Out of suffering have emerged the strongest of the souls.

As you heal, feed your mind with positivity. Be curious and open with your self-development. A positive mindset brings positive thoughts. Train your mind to see the best in everything. The happiness in your life depends on the quality of your thoughts. Know your why- and keep moving towards realizing your purpose. Lead and grow your wings. Pick yourself up- life is never that serious.

“When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life” Eckhart Tolle.

I love long village drives. I like the silence of the valleys and the mystery of the hills. The meanders automatically propel me to an auto-pilot mode. You know the relaxed mode where you forget all your problems and just thrive. The fresh air completes the anonymity of the moment. The water falls and the alignment of the trees and rivers flowing down the rocky bushes is quite phenomenal.

My village is like any other in this country where nobody cares of what the other person thinks about them, unlike the city where everyone is keen on how they dress or smell. This place is unique, there’re some village boys who just sit at the shopping Centre discussing absolutely nothing the entire day. People here walk unbothered by life. They do not seem to care about the crippling ambitions of the world. I’ve also noted there are some friends I made when I was young, and they remain to be friends. Genuine ones. They are keen to attend all your functions, they cry and laugh with you. They do not keep you for your social status but as a person they’ve known all this while. Not the kind that will see you in trouble and they’ll still ask you to reach out if you’re in trouble”. That’s why they say, you’ll never know who your real friends are until you are in need. You’ll be surprised who shows up. These village dudes are the real deal, they never disappoint on friendships.

Anyway, as I observed these beautiful rivers along the way, I noted something peculiar. Not just the rivers but the entire surrounding. Some rivers had become bigger, others had vanished. Some vegetation had disappeared, and some other trees had grown taller overtime. Nature is never static, it’s always changing. Change is in creation, and everything has a season. In this life, nothing is permanent, and life begins at the end of your comfort zone. We saunter into this world daily, ignoring many risks that we encounter. In the morning, we step out of the door not knowing what the day will bring. We assume we are healthy, for the fact that our bodies look strong. We believe that the motorist will be diligent enough on the roads, they’ll not knock us off. We hedge our bets with the universe forgetting that nothing is guaranteed. If we can trust the universe this much not knowing what tomorrow will bring, then we can choose to forge forward irrespective of our current status.

I listened to our church share the theme for this year” breaking camp and advancing” and my heart went wild with expectations of what this year would bring. I charged my spirit through out the session but guess what? I have not moved an inch despite having all these ideas and creations in my head. Behind the scenes I know I am well capable of advancing but I’m familiar with the harsh clutches of uncertainty all too well. I’ve wavered and waffled about every decision I’ve faced, and I’ve been so afraid to make mistakes that cannot be undone. I’ve been too comfortable and that is why nothing is working. So, I need the push, I need to undo the stagnation and looking for a bursting point. I need to advance and get to the next level of newness.

Most of us are here, we are afraid to venture into a business because seven out of ten fail and we feel that such failures will leave us paralyzed for long. We refuse to leave our jobs because it is the only way we can succeed, whereas we’ve not ventured into any other kind of a job to see it succeeds or not. Sometimes we feel what happens tomorrow we won’t survive it. What is the worst that can happen anyway? Take your worst-case scenario that plays too loud in your head and dissect it. Burst it open and examine the Constance of your reality. If that thing you’re afraid of happens today, what will you do? Be willing to open up to the universe and allow the universe to deliver in ways far beyond your wildest dreams. Openness breeds a multiplicity of experience that strengthen our resolve and help us grow. Keep moving! Moving forward keeps us face to face with risks but also with hope. Make an intentional choice to embrace your uncertainty. Take your power back! Advance!

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